Steve and I were high school sweethearts. We started dating when I was 15, and he was 18. Three years later on a very cold winter night, December 19, 1980, we were married. So, today is our 39th anniversary! I got tickled at work today when I realized that I’ve been married longer than most of my co-workers have been alive! 39 years – that’s a long time in anybody’s book, and we’re more in love today than we were then.
Now, it hasn’t always been easy. We’ve had to deal with loss of grandparents, parents, and a child, due to a miscarriage. We’ve had surgeries, and made it through the virus attacking Steve’s heart and him almost dying in 2015. How you deal with difficult times as a couple is so important. Does it draw you closer, leaning on each other or are you pulled apart, keeping things bottled up inside? Things happen! It’s how you deal with it together that makes the difference! We’ve found jobs and lost jobs. We’ve moved – living in four states. We’ve even survived building a house together! We’ve raised two very independent (beautiful, of course!) daughters, and now have the honor of being Aiden’s PaPaw and Gammy.
I believe that commitment first to God, and then to each other has been paramount to our successful marriage. I’ve told Steve many times – “You better learn to love me because you’re stuck with me to the bitter end!” When we got married, we promised each other that we’d never talk about or “threaten” divorce, and it’s never been an option. We’re still best friends. We meet each other at the door when we get home. We “wait” on each other, always asking if the other wants something, if we’re going to the kitchen. We make it a point to kiss every day. We pray together. If we’re walking across the parking lot, then, we’re holding hands – it’s just who we are. We’ve got “history – we literally ‘raised each other in the way we should go!'” We’ve grown to that point that words are not always necessary.
This year, our kids are coming home for Christmas early and we’re actually going to be “home alone” on Christmas Day. As I was bemoaning this fact, Steve reminded me that we’re just back to where we started – we’ve still got each other. And that, my friends is such a blessing! God has been so good to us. May we be granted many more years together. Happy Anniversary, Steve! God Bless, Courtney